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Hiding in plain sight: The Toilet Paradox

Are you familiar with the Toilet Paradox?


Of course you aren’t. I just made it up!

There’s IP everywhere…

This was an awkward photo to take. I had to wait until everyone had left the gents restroom to take it!

I’d noticed something interesting. 

The frosted glass door on the bathroom stall wasn’t opaque enough. If you sat on the toilet your bare butt could literally be seen by everyone in the room!

It made me think of how often my clients are trying to hide an aspect of themselves from the world. 

Michael Neill uses a lovely metaphor to explain this challenge…

We are born as a beautiful, perfect diamond. But as we start to buy into the limiting beliefs of our family, society, the media, etc. our perfection gets covered in layers of crap. We spend the rest of our lives applying nail polish to cover the crap, attempting to hide it from the world, when our real job is simply to remove the crap.  

That’s where a powerful coach comes in, to help their clients uncover their diamond within.

Most people are hiding in plain sight, quietly hoping you don’t see who they really are. They’ve learned to hide themselves, to numb out, or to pretend to be somebody else.

The Toilet Paradox says that no matter how much you try to hide your tears, your fears, your insecurities, or yourself… We see you! 

The Toilet Paradox says you’re not as full of crap as you imagine. 

That part of you that you think you’re hiding. We see you. 

Those fears you think we can’t see. We see you. 

Those emotions you think we can’t feel. We see you. 

Your need for acceptance and approval is making you play small. One of the greatest regrets in life is hiding who you really are, rather than being yourself. 

The Toilet Paradox states that to live the life you really want, you have to risk being seen in all of your glory!

Love. Rich 


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